We can take the period of time since the breakup into account but we also need to note whether actions matching words are amounting to somebody who is available for a mutual, consistent, balanced (no pedestals / controlling), progressing relationship that can blossom into increasing intimacy and commitment. It’s very easy to look at a person’s age, background, what they earn, their relationship history, their appearance, their divorce, and whatever else we’re focusing on, and rule them in or out on this basis, but in the end, regardless of any of these things, we still have to assess our own boundaries and do the due diligence. If you typically struggle with the uncertainty that comes with being with somebody who still has their previous relationship to resolve, or you know based on experience that you’ve had your fingers burned by being involved with separated or recently broken up people, don’t go there.
If your interest tends to get piqued by being a ‘buffer’ to someone who is transitioning, it would be more beneficial to evaluate why this is attractive to you.
You camouflaging their issues is only causing you to blend into the background of your own life.
Catching the Chain: When an inmate is leaving Chatted Out: Someone who has gone crazy Choke Sandwich: A peanut butter sandwich with no jelly Chow: Dinner CO: A correctional officer Cowboy: A new correctional officer.
Dime: 10-year sentence Ding-wing: A prison’s psychiatric unit.
BB Filler: Body Bag Filler; usually a very ill prisoner.